Connection problems

So I never had any problems before, but last time I played was with OF.

Now, when I log on, half the time I pick a character and try to connect it takes me to the "can not connect, bit esc to exit".

When it does goto the loading screen half the time the loading bar fills up but the game never does anything so I have to hit esc to go back to character select and try again.

Also, in Drum Ligen it won't let me click the door lever, it says I am too far away every time.

I see when I log on I can select from like 4-5 different spots from EU or US...should I stay at default or take US-SF which would be closer to me?
It's a game and a game is meant to be enjoyed by everyone, not just a select few who want everyone to play their way!