This discussion is as old as the game itself.
In the end, there only one truth: everybody should and can play as she/he preffers
There will be never a way to get all people playing the game in the same way or to bring all to the same opinion and this is good.
From my point of view, everybody can play as he wants’. Solo, Small men, 8 men, zerg, adding or not. Doesn´t matter.
The biggest problem i see is, that the respect is missing, the respect for the playstyle of the others.
So, if you get added, take your consequences, but don´t blame the others for their way of playing.
If you get zerged, take your consequences, but don´t blame the others for their way of playing.
If you get jumped by bigger number or 8mans jump into zerg fight, take your consequences, but don´t blame the others for their way of playing.
I am mostly playing 8men or solo. If i run solo, i have to live with getting jumped by small men, 8 men or zergs, there it makes no difference, everybody is running behind a solo. But this is my problem, because i have chosen the option to run solo, so i have to take the consequence with getting killed by larger numbers.
If i play in 8 men, we sometimes have add. Then we have to live with it, we can´t change it.
The most important point for me is: Playing with my friends and having fun during that time.
Thoras Proudmoore - Paladin